Thoughts on Revenge

There are definitely people in my life that I would love to get revenge on. I’m sure you have some, too. However, what will it get you?

1. You will be as low as the person you’re hurting

2. People who like that person will probably think ill of you

3. It won’t heal the wounds you have, just give them new ones.

Here’s some healthy, and more mature, alternatives to revenge:

1. Kill the person with kindness – remember, keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

2. Find your own ways of closure

3. Release your anger through something like running, art, or anything else constructive.

Simple Happiness Tip

Materials Needed:

1. Mini Post-it Note, any color

2. Pen

Procedure.

Step 1:  Draw a Smiley face on the sticky note

Step 2:  Stick it somewhere you look a lot during the day (planner, mirror, desk)

Step 3: Smile every time you see this.

This maks my days so much brighter :)

My Fool Proof Method for Finishing a Book on Time!

All high school English classes have reading assignments, obviously. Some schools read a novel over time and discuss it in class. Some schools, like mine, assign the book, and give a test date, and the student is left on his own. People who procrastinate have a lot of trouble with this method. It’s hard to read a book every night when you know you have a month, three weeks, two weeks, etc. to read it. But then, suddenly, your test is tomorrow and you’re on chapter 4 and you don’t know what you’re going to do!

 

Avoiding that is easy.

 

1. Set up a Schedule – When I am assigned a book, a count the pages, and the days I have to read it. I leave out days I KNOW I will not be able to read. For example, I’m going to visit my sister at college; I can’t read in the car, it’s useless to schedule reading that day. Usually it will end up being maybe two or three chapters a night. This is so much more manageable than reading a whole book in one night.

 

2. Write it down – In your planner or calendar or whatever it is you use, each day write what you have to read (example: Tuesday: “Brave New World” chapters 4 and 5). Follow it like a homework assignment.

 

3. Rewards – “If I read these chapters, I can go to the mall and buy myself something,” “If I finish chapter 7 tonight, I can go out with my boyfriend tomorrow.” Things like that are good ways to motivate yourself. You will also feel the wonderful feeling of accomplishment as you see your bookmark move from the front of the book to the back.

 

Obviously there’s will power involved here, but it’s much better than having no system of getting reading done. Happy reading, guys!

How to Fit Exercise into a Busy Schedule

For those of you not involved in sports, there are a ton of other obligations that take time out of your day. Especially in your teens, exercise is very important for your health. Only recently I’ve begun exercising regularly again. With Chorus, SAT Class, Work, Homework, and my friends and boyfriend, it’s hard to fit it in. But here’s how I committed myself to exercising every day: 1.  Treat it like a daily routine. You do homework every day, because it’s part of your responsibility. Treat working out like homework. But, have fun while you do it. 2. It doesn’t have to be a long time. I run on my treadmill for 15 minutes a day. If I have time, I do other things. But commit yourself to at least 15 to 20 minutes of exercise. 3. Grab a buddy.  Yesterday Michelle and I went running (/walking) in the park. My boyfriend and I are going to go running together in the summer. A buddy will give you motivation :) Remember to make it fun.   

Friday Links! (:

Hope everyone is having a happy Friday.

SATs tomorrow =)

Here are some great posts from this week.

The Perfect Mess - from Lifehack.org

Investing in yourself: Personal Appearance and Hygiene – from The Simple Dollar

Look on the Bright Side: 100 Tiny Tips to Improve your Mood – from Bootstrapper

How to Overcome Jealousy – from Positivity Blog

Why Sleeping is the Most Important Thing, Ever.

How many of you have pulled an all-nighter before? Or stayed up til all hours of the night to do work?

I’m guilty of both of those things on quite a few occasions, but on most nights, I force myself to go to bed at 11 or before if I’m really tired. When I hear girls at my school talking about how they’re up until 2 a.m. every day, I don’t know why they do it to themselves.  Do you want to be focused and on the ball, and get good grades in school?

Then sleep more.

Of course, study hard. But get to bed at a decent hour. If you still have work, it’s better to get up extra early than to stay up later. Last year I had a HUGE religion assignment due and I was maybe half way through and it was 1 a.m. I called up my friend Mike crying about how it wasn’t going to get done, and he told me to sleep, and he’d call me at 5:30 and wake me so I could finish my work. Those few hours of sleep made all the difference. I was able to do my work much more easily, and I was much more focused.

Do yourself a favor, set a bed time and stick to it during the week. Waking up extra early is much better for you than staying up late into the night.

With that, I’m going to go sleep (:

Getting Through the Aches of Heartbreaks

Post By: Michelle

 

 

 

Ok so my friend Kaitlin started this site and was all excited about it and the views it was getting. I usually check it every time she updates because most of her tips help me, and because of a quote I happen to love: “Learn from others’ mistakes – you won’t have enough time to make them all yourself.” Not to say that Kaitlin is making mistakes – all I’m saying is that she has more experience in certain areas of life (such as SAT Prep or organization) than I do (I don’t take SAT classes, I’m not preparing myself in any way, and my room is in a constant state of disaster). After reading a few of her entries, I decided to try my hand at writing one of my own, especially after I added a few extra tips onto her Snow Day article.

 

 

The most recent major experience that I’ve had, for the most part, is heartbreak. Ok, so maybe it’s not quite so recent, because I know Kaitlin is reading this saying “Michelle, that was how many MONTHS ago?” But that’s not the point. The point is that it’s something that everyone experiences in their lifetime (unless maybe you’re a nun or a priest? But even then it’s possible). Last June, I went through a tough break-up with a guy who had been my best friend and promised me that things wouldn’t change between us. Eight months later and I have no idea what’s happening in his life anymore due to the fact that we don’t talk anymore. And honestly? that hurts. So after a few months of failing to get over this upset in my life, I have finally found a basically fool-proof way to get over your heartbreak (no guarantees though).

 

 

- Remove any memorabilia from your previous relationship with the person who broke your heart – for the sake of me not getting arthritis typing all this out repeatedly, let’s call him (or her) George. If George happened to give you a stuffed animal for Valentine’s Day, or you have a picture of you and George on the bulletin board next to your bed, put them away, somewhere where you can’t see them easily. I, for example, didn’t have many “3D objects”, so I was able to take my old journals and cards and anything else that reminded me of my most recent ex-George and put it into a case, which I then proceeded to store on the top shelf of my closet. The less you see of him, the less likely you will be to think of him. And the less you think of him, the easier it will probably be.

 

 

- Give yourself some space. If you guys have decided to be friends, don’t talk to him every second of the day about every little thing that happened. If your heart still aches, and you talk to him constantly, it’s going to be a lot harder to actually get over him.

 

 

- Don’t proceed to blame anyone for the break-up. Especially don’t blame yourself. If you find someone or something to blame, then you will simply wind up hating whatever it is you blame and if that something happens to be your ex-George, things could get messy. For example, you might start ranting about how “everything is his fault” or “omg I’m such a screw up I messed this whole thing up I’m an idiot”. Ranting, in this situation, won’t help you. Yes, it will help you blow off steam and get everything that’s on your mind out of your head, but then you could find yourself talking about how you “messed it all up” or how it was your ex-George’s fault or whatever all the time, 24/7. It’s happened to me. I used to find myself talking to my friends and randomly bring up my ex-George and start talking about him. And then I’d get upset again. And then I’d have to start all over. The less I blamed him, or the less I talked about him, the less upset I’d get and the easier it was to move on.

 

 

- Give yourself time. This is the most important step. Unlike the movies or books, people don’t stitch up their broken hearts and move on in a matter of days or hours. If that happened, then they probably weren’t that in love with the person as much as they thought they were. There is no set time for how long it should take someone to get over an ex-George. Like I mentioned earlier, it took me 8 months to be sure that I was utterly and completely over him (there were a lot of false alarms along the way, too). And don’t go and try to find yourself another George right away because you think that the easiest way to move on is to find a new George. It might just make things more difficult. The best way to move on is to take your time, sort out your feelings, and take things one step at a time.

 

 

- Use your friends as support beams. When I say that, I don’t mean that you should rely on them for every little problem or bump in the road that you come across. But, like a house, without support beams, things have the possibility of falling apart. It’s also easier if you have a friend who is going through the same thing as you because then you can help each other through it. This past summer, for example, right after the break up with my most recent George, I was talking to another single friend of mine who was also suffering from heartbreak. While we were talking, we decided that both of us were going to stay single for the entire summer, so that we could “let ourselves heal”. It was originally her idea, and her reasoning behind this fabulous idea was that she wanted to be able to give all of her heart to the next guy she went out with – if she was still heartbroken and found another George, then she would only be able to give him pieces of her heart, and that might lead to complications in the relationship later on.

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